[Music] heat heat [Music] in our family I'm happy to say it is a tradition that you come to Passover over and spend it with your family and when I say family I mean all the nieces the nephews the grandchildren the great grandchildren the great nieces the great nephews it's a time a wonderful time when everybody gets to know everybody every child that was born the year before becomes part of the family is held and kissed and hung by every tanta and cousin we spent all the holidays together that's because the mama and papa would only be at Pepe's house cuz she was strictly kosher so we all gathered here it is in my opinion one of the times in our lives that everybody gets to remember all of the wonderful things of their past for 70 years I've seen it exist that's what Pesak does it keeps us all together it's the glue and with that nobody's ever alone and I happen to attribute it to this wonderful wonderful celebration of Passover when we all get together i've heard it said many times and it's a truth the family that sits around the table together stays together and we have many tables we start on Purum as soon as Purum is over I put up the beats for the Borch and that's the beginning of the preparations for Pesak and we work about six weeks we get together no matter what we do we clean the chickens so Honey comes down from Albany rosley comes in for Calwell iris is around she comes in for Virginia cleaning the 18 chickens becomes a ball and then with a soup I cook my chicken soup close to three hours the canal I can so rough why because you spoiled my potato everybody's temperamental an artist every It's just marvelous it's just so exciting that soon as Passover is here the door opened the first people that come in everybody is the taster right everybody has to taste the fish steven gets heck because the strong the horseradish isn't strong enough but the truth of the matter is when you open the jar you could pass out right of course years ago you graded it with a hand grader and Sophie would stay in the garage with papa and they had to have the doors open their room they would hand grate the root and it's powerful stuff people say we lost our buttons and you know something they're damn right wait this is the easy part stephen's coming for the real McCoy can we grate it good let it water drain put it in here come on Madison take a handful put it in here that's my girl got more a little more girls some bigger yeah more hands don't Don't give her a bath when you open the uh food processor after we've ground ground it to this consistency and we have to transfer it to a jar what is it to put this on so here we do we put the door open we grind this right at the back door here and then one of us Steven or I holler fingers it means we can't stop we have to go out getting a a deep breath so we can go on we're not crying yet the cried yet it still needs to go a little more i'm telling you that people would not believe us i said to the boys we're dysfunctional it's just a a wonderful wonderful family undertaking [Music] we're going to the butcher Kesla's it's the butcher store that I've been buying my meat for 40 years or better and it's up in the mountain area who's the best gin player selfie [Laughter] she cries now the best gym player is Pepe cuz she remembers all the cards when I'm When Peppy isn't around Rosie takes the cake one thing about us we always played cards we used to play every single day helen and I it was our form of recreation and uh that picture when my son-in-law took it I said "Don't take a picture i have rollers in my hair and a hairet on."

He said "No it won't be anything."

Okay next thing I knew it was in the paper and my sisters have their hair done and everything but not me so maybe someday I'll get another picture [Music] we went to a cuckane that's what I said we had an uncle who had a a cuckane and uh you know what a cockalain is it's when you rent a bungalow all over the summer for the summer and they do your own cooking it's a community kitchen not necessarily that's if you were a house but most bungalows like the ones I rented had the my own kitchen for all kinds of that we're talking about your uncle my uncle uncle Uncle Mark he rented a room then you had a community kitchen i was there billy was there so was I i was brought up there big deal my father sent us for the summer i was there one week you had to take me home she cried all the time he's an Israeli he's a honey bunny i hope he's there now do you have to go in and ask him or Well of course I have to go in and he says "Hello Peepy."

And I not talking to you how are you yes how you doing good this is my family hi family oh how are you excuse me darling wrap that up and then I want about 30 to 35 lbs of either fillet of chuck for my chant or steak or some nice soft good meat robert come back let me see it that's That's nice um how much is it in a pound $4.99 do a little better i want 30 got to talk to him oh that's okay i'll talk to him i talk to him my papa taught me to take the piece of it day say "Skin the top skin the bottom cut it over this way remove the grizzle and you had the best piece of meat that to this day."

I taught my butcher how to do that he was going to cut my mini i said "Don't you dare my papa doesn't do it that way."

But he taught me how to cut meat and what meat I was buying you want this cut like this excuse me go ahead like this and then like this that's right okay repeat it now we cut that piece off let's see can you cut this off no the end piece well I tell you what i'll wait on you side wait hold on just put it in the way it is robert cutting off the side pieces don't need that don't go ahead i want it that way you cut that off you cut robert get it cut away you cut this piece off just that piece to satisfy her cut it off we're not easy to deal with that's going to be about five pounds good cut now cut it in three pieces the other way three pieces let's see or two cut that off cut that piece no now stop it cut it in three pieces right do you want yes a couple of slices of beef liver please how much $6.99 a pound yes oh I don't need it [Music] what do you want after chuck meat i don't want anything more what about you you're not taking real chops no that's good you're not taking lamb chops no okay you have for the holiday can you say you have me for i don't know what you're going to do with that [Music] are you ready yeah why two and a half dollars i don't have anything i didn't take my Okay okay i knew she would do that didn't I tell you that before here you are [Music] go and come to Zah come let's go good day work i'm so happy the meat all the meats are koshi we let her be divorced you know after all We're the Gophers you know the Gophers that's who we are a sister is a sister is a sister and lucky are those who have them we're lucky we used to uh have to come home from school and get the house ready for Sharpest we all parttook of that mostly Sophie and Fritzy fritzy came along gradually and uh we just did whatever we were told we wash the floor and get uh things finished and the clutches which are made of wood sophie she would have to rub with an iron brush and then sweep and then put clean sawdust on the floor sawdust was very important because when my father's daughters went through the butcher store with the sawdusters and everything we had to look like we just stepped out of the magazine so customer would say "That's yours Mr dubro?"

He says "I think so."

And then he would say "As they left they were all dark they come back blonded."

He didn't he he loved he loved the girls he really did he believed that they have to go to the beauty parlor on Saturday even if we left the money there Friday but he never objected to anything that we wanted you know as far as clothes was very important to him and he did the same with my mother she had a look just so he wouldn't trade a daughter for the world he was lucky because he has one son so he was content i don't think he would have been as content if he had no sons but he did have one son next to the oldest and after that he said there's nothing like girls he just loved girls they were very unusual parents she was a cook in the Russian army he was a great cook great cook i once sat with my children and asked them "Were you happy in your childhood and they asked me the same thing?"

And I said "As far as I know I was very happy i lacked nothing never knew my father was poor because we always had food."

That was his first assignment to take care of his children they were great parents absolutely great i loved every minute of it my mother said that at all her life did she ever think she would have such a wonderful old age that she had a leg amputated and added an extra five years to her life she died at 95 i don't know how they made them that in those days but they were strong they were strong we fall apart but they were strong and I I tell you something that his son-in-laws were crazy about him whenever they came this one wanted steak this one had real chops this one mama was busy with all that she knew that they liked so how could you not like a guy like that but they took such care of his son-in-laws and his son-in-laws took very good care of him because after he had his heart attack next day Lou Kaplan that's the oldest son-in-law came and said "Papa you got to close the store."

And he said "Why?"

He said "Because from now on you get a check every week from me from Joe and Eddie and from your son and you'll never need for anything."

Cuz there isn't a day that we don't talk about them or say "Oh my goodness if papa were here or mama were here they'd know just what to do."

If I travel this goes with me cuz they're my flying angels and this is their 50th wedding anniversary picture and every one of us got it i don't go anywhere out of town without it how many people have such angels they watch over their children [Music] more fish more fish smile smile beautiful holiday thank you S enjoy thank you oh what a beautiful car i tell you what very funny thing mama always loved the fishbones but mama always choke minnie I told you not to but nothing stopped her from eating the bones honey Dolly good morning and good morning hawker number two reporting for duty work good morning gentlemen and Sophie and Sophie look who's here hello i thought you said you'd be here you're a woman of your word of course we're washing fish what are you talking about we just started look at the amount of fish well can I um said "What can you do there's one sink one sink if you move over we should share it."

Girls it's early now honey girls come on we got a long day of talking together let's not fight is the best part i can't do the bones and that that's not for me i'd rather throw them out that's for me very heavy i understand that and very strong something is in maybe you put it together wrong possible of course but it all was put together and you know what if you were as old as this thing you could be temperamental too i thought I put it together perfect let me turn go ahead left that's probably why it's not working the blade is in wrong there you go the blade is not in wrong hold it that's the way the blade has to No upside down you have it okay we'll see girls give me the blade please the blade blade so she had the blade this blade yeah okay let me see how you put the blade in okay just you have it out it goes in this way see you want a bit okay okay a trip to where it's not coming through the way honey honey take it out honey you're going to listen undo undo the thing before you put your fingers in i'm not putting my fingers in well I pull the plug out okay don't you see it's not grinding it's killing my fish how is it going to fish is dead i can't kill how is it you don't darling please you don't i'm doing this for 5 years already are we five years i'm telling you maybe it wasn't tight enough but did you ever see a blade face that way to grind absolutely no no you're not going to put the blade in until the whole thing is put together put the whole Put the whole machine together then put it in there listen to me wash the whole machine do not put it in until the whole thing is put together now let's try this blade again that's your blade you say this way right right okay now this has to fit tight has to fit it but the way you're holding it it won't cuz it hits the bottom there you can't rest it i know Sophie honey hold on wait i want to show you something i know what you're saying no just a minute take this off for a minute wait where that's No it doesn't now it's No it's not no take it out i want to tell you something this has to be Go all the way down it is down as much as it could go okay now do that see how close you can get it that goes over there i see experiment number six all right all right ready well if it doesn't work yet go out go out and get a grinder superior knowledge we can buy a smaller grinder it'll grind it you know as long as you grind I bet Home Depot will have one all right put the cards in let's get to work here if you have a chance come on i expect it to be finished here's the picture here's that blade that's what I want hold it hold the hand here okay read we sent you to school read assemble grinder this way do the feed screw um assemble grinder head to motor housing let's head to motor insert thief screw into the grinder head that's not assemble cutting blade on the end of the thief screw here we go again [Music] just like sushi needs onion can I crack the egg Nana i just want to crack it i feel like I want to just do something oh please take a picture she wants to do something here we go test number one your grandmother would say hi give me pepper come on it needs salt give me some salt in my hand give it i got it here what do you want give me the box of salt here honey put it in my hand more come on come on don't knock yourself out go get in the middle you need pepper just Yeah salt salt no it's not too much salt taste what do you think salt pepper no I don't think so i think it's good to go let it go i tell you it's good to go need salt doesn't it no god no no it doesn't need salt Peshy okay it's good to go well maybe just a little no I'm No it doesn't need salt i don't think it needs salt maybe pepper but not salt i feel I taste the salt and I I thought it needed pepper it could use a little more pepper can I wolf Gang wolf your idol wolf Gang is he your idol he could he just wants his his kitchen i he was had a Passover program and he's showing his Gila fish and the kettle is longer than twice the length of this table and he throws the fish in well I said that's what I need that's what you need anybody out there that's listening i'm beginning to believe we finish this like Mac by magic you're making us nervous go away don't you trust us this is what you use to search for the for the Kmets that is laid out by normally the master of the house you have a wooden spoon a candle and a feather and he searches every place and scoops up the kummet that I laid out the little pieces of bread onto this where you going burn the KTS any leaven in my property which I have not seen which I have or have not ruled shall be as if it does not exist and the dust of the earth Amen and there's the burning of the Kumax [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] tradition in the family is that on the family sad night we make what we call a chalant a Sophie and Pepe cuz nobody else could interfere with them that's the truth they had to be the over that yes I am the I'm I'm the big whale I for I won't even tell you what they call me we're all good cooks but I have the most stamina rose gets tired and she'll lie down and Sophie I try to spare she's been doing it till she was 92 years old chelen truly represents putting everything in one pot mixing it up well and a boy Stephen and a boy putting it in with love and care and attention and it's really representative of our family because this is the recipe my mother brought to us and this is this is it when you come into the house and we are cooking we happen to be very verbal as you know you have to put the meat in now we're going to put the meat in where are you going to put the cry well what do you want from me we'll find a spot for the neighbor before and heard us cooking you would say they'll never survive the day so fire me i'm waiting to be fired if you use the wrong utensil in this house you have to get buried in the backyard with it right you are how many balls of stuffing for the chant that's the cry run into the AMP and get a couple of more pieces of of what well you also say there's not enough meat i mean it's a vicious cycle so but I'm immune now it's time don't forget this has to close right there i'll step on it carrots and onions when did you ever use carrots in toad if I We're not talking about Ch we're talk about the stuffing see you think it's easy i'm going out of the way you tell me why you just don't say murder is bound to happen but it's really not sophie says it's not enough salt i could I think it needs a little more salt no okay what was the point in tasting it [Music] okay nobody had so much fun now we got to season we're waiting no salt over here some potatoes with salt [Music] just let it rest there just let it rest there Stephie i just lowered the light here why take a look and you'll see why absolutely not it's It's got to bo the why it has the water has to cook out it can't cook out on a low flame that's what I try to tell you well certainly it's okay is fine i'm telling you when you leave another hour or two she'll pull it out i won't pull it out because I don't have to it has water it's down to 225 it's going to cook for another 15 hours so uh believe me it's fine i tried to convince her that I'm not on her committee this is not the show this is a personal cha well since you haven't made a cholant in I don't know how many years um I I have to leave it for my best judgment and uh I'd fire her she was on my committee why do I tease her i guess cuz I love her a lot of stuff in it a lot of cooking in it the secret ingredient is love she's not afraid of hug i'm not afraid of her either but I can't i think we should switch it and she'll yell when she comes back can you get it just a minute where are we putting it can you put it up there showing moving should be an aerobic exercise there should be like tybo kickboxing and chant moving to deliver because I've got a hernia from lifting that chanting it is impossible to ruin a chant you see this see here okay that's the stuffing it's impossible to ru cuz it all tastes the same no one can tell the difference between the potatoes the stuffing or the meat it's all the same [Music] so that you can We got to start graing we got to start [Applause] [Music] now everybody goes "Don't put too much pepper in don't put too much pepper in don't put too much salt in."

You can never have enough salt here comes the Here comes It's usually gooey they melt guys did you have black ranch of course why do you think in a wilderness it is the best radish that they have ever made not me that they ever made right wasn't that right oh it was good i need a little salt keshi what are you doing with the scissor and my first wedding picture well what do you think I'm going to do that's what I'm going to do with it then just cut your head out i'm not I'm not You know now you tell her could I could just cut his head off isn't it better if I do it this way here's Iris and Milton and Rosie and me and Mush and Sarah and Phil this was Andy's and Mike's engagement party up in Pipsy under the tent see there tantabasha Uncle Lou Paul Ken Adam now see you later honey and Rosalie and Shelly were how many years younger rosalie and Shelly they're all the same age they're all five weeks apart yeah my sister Fritzy may she rest in peace any dresses that I bought I never wore before she wore it and I bought two dresses for my wedding to Mac i think it's here and she didn't know what I was going to wear she said "Make a decision."

I said "Why?"

Because whichever one you don't wear I'll wear so I chose one and it chose this how fabulous [Music] this one has all the symbols of the star of David and the uh kittish cups and the candles we'll put this large spoon there cuz the soup is the first thing you're using then the knife then the third spoon and the knife the curve goes towards the plate straight we are uneven in force [Music] i want to count cuz I I don't want to start setting up at 6:00 putting up another table iris I have to go out when I come back we'll have a I'm going to count you I didn't I tell you to do it didn't I David didn't I say it's yours job you do it i'm going to count assignment count okay [Music] how are you [Music] two eggs on the table how are you not bad cell phone mama look at that [Music] my daughter wow coming one more i don't need to be in the way of I think we can get everybody seated is everybody here hey we're about to start the Seda and formally bring in the Pesak so I want to wish you all a year of good health happiness and joys may you have many simas and my sisters join me Rosie and Sophie thanking you to be here for coming here and to enjoy this wonderful occasion with us so on their behalf and mine I sing say let's drink dabin and be merry and may hashem bring his blessings to all of you thanks for being with us please join as we light the candles for 55 years grandpa led this seder and then for the next 38 years my father your papa uncle m led this sader michael followed him and now Richie and I have stepped up to the plate [Applause] [Music] a piece of one person okay you raise your voice we'll break it and we'll say blessed art thou eternal God ruler of the universe who brings forth bread from the earth blessed art thou eternal our God ruler of the universe who made us holy with his commandments and commanded us concerning the eating of the matzah and pass some around to everyone at the table please [Music] [Applause] [Music] the simple son asks "What is this?"

To him to him you shall say with a strong hand the eternal brought us out of Egypt from the house of bondage as for the son who does not even know how to ask a question I am ready and prepared to observe the mitzvah of the bitter herbs for the sake of the holy one blessed be he praise be you eternal our God ruler of the world who made us holy with commandments and commanded us concerning the eating of bitter herbs there's [Music] This is epic the problem with Spongebob is you cannot dunk [Music] for Jeffrey whatever your favorite memory is share that with us just because I'm one of the newest members of the family they'll try to do this without crying my very first memory of Passover with with his family was with Uncle Moa and he made me feel so welcome and that's my favorite memory he did a nice thing actually my one of my worst memories of Passover is that um Stephen used to be really mean to me and he used to make me cry and Iris and Big Sheila and Lovey and um Eden were all just old enough you know older than me enough to make me uncomfortable we were left out but I know that in your hearts you loved us just as much as anybody else tell her you're sorry for making her eat the mud pie right now the mud pies you made her eat it it's true me too her neck mine is uh going up to Aunt Sophie's attic and getting into all of the clothes and trying on every fancy dress and hat and parading around the house in the everybody and eyeing and saying how wonderful we all were and we made an absolute mess in Aunt Sophie's garage she always got cases of eggs and selzer that sprayed so we would wait until people drove down the street and we would heave the eggs and squirt the seltzer and then we'd get beaten up not by aunt Sophie but by the boys what I remember most was getting dressed up wearing our first pair of stockings to the seder sheila and I spending at least an hour and a half getting dressed doing our hair just wearing our new clothes and then going to the seder and getting silver dollars it was all about the silver dollars we had four or five of of the uncles and every they each had gave us $10 and we would stand in line and I remember being too old and standing in line and wanting them and then saying "You no you're out of here you're out not this year not this year and they would give us like 80 silver dollars and we would go like from uncle to uncle to uncle and then you know uncle Lou would say I'll give you 20 for 10 and sometimes we would do that but if we didn't do that the next person we had it was my grandmother my grandma reminded all of us that we needed to take some of our money and give it to charity give it to Seducka which was not a concept that we actually understood you know we thought we were our own charity but anyway and they would take she would take $10 at least 10 or $15 sometimes from each of us to give to charity i remember like two years ago when I ate 10 moatza balls one after another before everyone stopped me my most significant memory has to be the food it starting with the kafila fish that there is no other no matter where you go it it never compares then the the moatza ball soup i've never had in my life anything that even comes close i didn't know that it was weird to know your second and third cousins cuz I was explaining to someone "Oh yeah I'm going to Seder i'm going to see all these cousins."

They're like "Oh how many cousins do you have?"

I was like "Oh you know like 867 or something i don't know."

They're like "I don't know any of my second cousins the only cousins that I know are my first cousins."

So whenever I think of Passover I think my favorite memory would be the fact that not only is it a time when I get to see my first and my second cousins but I get to see all of my cousins my most uh memorable seder is actually one that I never attended it was in 1957 it was after the second seder at my soon-to-be mother-in-law's house when my best friend and uh their cousin Harold Kaplan insisted that uh his cousin Rosley come back to Newberg and meet a young fella uh who was me and after that seder we met officially for the first time although I had known Rosley for quite a while we went out on a date and uh have been dating ever since sitting with Grandpa Dubra and he taught me how to drink tea sitting in his lap strawberry preserves kosher for Passover in in in the cup and I can still taste that but when Papa of Blessed Memory died and we told you Papa was dead Papa died you cried you said "Did he leave the recipe for the tea i suppose my favorite memory was watching my mother make her roies and because every year it becomes a big issue about you know it's like your family and your heroes is like what you are but most of all that I got Uncle Merch to do the four questions in Yiddish i love that my most memorable seder was pess 1999 that was the first seder that my father had not been here to lead in almost 40 years but his legacy showed in the over 100 people from our family who came that year to honor his memory so many that we had to set a tent up in the backyard the most important thing about our family seder is our family we are one we laugh together we cry together nothing we argue we argue it doesn't mean a thing not a simple thing when we get together we're one and now everybody sit down so we can conclude the [Music] [Music] singing us from the house of bondage and your covenant sealed that's good you always do a wonderful job but especially good job i don't want to choke myself my drunk in the morning okay matri fuel of the Russian army excuse me matri anyone in a lot of families you know they have Passover everybody goes home our our people our nieces and nephews family come from all over so tradition number two moatzabry we take orders and I start frying it in three pans by 7:30 a quarter to 8 in comes the first batch of guests for mozzar okay ladies here's the mozzar the problem is nobody wants to leave so they sit down and they start eating moatzabry and so my sister Rosie and Helen would I would turn take turns frying the moatza bry because you couldn't get it fast enough from the stove to the table and it looks like a a happy house and a dirty stove get that on film my mother was going to have some moatzab you can't believe that pe can people eat mozzar for 4 hours the answer is yes that is another tradition and that's the one that is most fun because all the kids are there see you soon bye bye trace it's a great thing being reached the age of 84 that we are and not worry about anything something happened we'll be taken care of good bad or indifferent 10 nephews call nieces run that's Pesak that's the true meaning of Passover the binding of a family together no matter if it's once a year even it's like glue the hard part is uh the loss of our sisters i I don't know why but um after Helen died it was just the three of us it was okay you know but now there's only two we were really very fortunate very close and one always was with the other at all times of course we lost most of them and there's just us two left but we say thank God i only have one wish and that it will continue long after Rosie and I are gone and we don't expect to die now please I want you to understand it i feel we have a couple of more pesaks under our belt to give but um I hope they continue because I would love to think that all the cousins are truly what the word cousins means part of a family somebody that you know no matter what happens you have the feeling you're not going to be alone and you weren't and so it's worth every bit of effort and I pray that God will be good to me and I could stand up for a few more times and welcome everybody to Pesak when the kids ask what are you going to do so for Pesak next year you are coming to stay for both and Rosie and I say the same as we've done for years there may be a little extra salt in the fish from the tears or something but outside of that it will be pak as usual please God [Music] Hallelujah hallelujah [Music] hallelujah hallelujah [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] hallelujah heat heat [Music] to [Applause] Forever amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] heat heat heat heat [Applause] heat heat heat heat [Music] [Applause] [Music]